“Stacey, the best compliment that I can give you is that you made my life infinitely better.”
Stacey Lynn Garvis, 53, of Parker, CO went to be with the Lord, and ended her battle with ovarian cancer, on May 20, 2020 at Sky Ridge Medical Center in Lone Tree, CO. She was born on January 18, 1967 to Sara Merle and Jim VanEck in Rapid City, SD.
Stacey’s life was a continuous series of events focused on helping others. The quote above was just one of many the family received in the past few days. Her life was filled with both difficulty and triumph. It was the difficult times in her life that made her such a beautiful soul. Her dedication to her family and friends was a thing of amazement. Even in her final months, she found ways to help others, quietly, without even her immediate family knowing. Her willingness to be open and to educate others about her disease has saved the life of at least one other friend.
Her fierce love and compassion will be greatly missed. She made everyone feel so special and loved, as she constantly showered her family and friends with gifts and random acts of kindness. Stacey believed one should “Live one’s life to the fullest”, and demonstrated that by helping others. She knew that it was not how long one lives, but how one used their life.
You will see on Stacey’s homepage that she states, “You can choose comfort or growth...sometimes they choose you.” Stacey’s life was an exercise in growth, not only for her but for her family and friends. She had an uncanny ability with her friends and family to help them achieve growth through a balance of the toughness she displayed until the very end, and complete grace when it was most needed. It was a true testament to her faith and beautiful soul.
Her favorite quote was “LIVE IN THE MOMENT and make it so beautiful that it will be worth remembering.” For those of us who knew her well, she did an exceptional job of living up to that and the many ways in which she made our lives beautiful will always be remembered.
One could go on for hours listing the amazing things she accomplished, or the practical jokes that she played. However the comments from her friends and family paint a beautiful picture of who she was. Below are just a few of the sentiments received, the first is where the opening quote is from.
“Stacey, the best compliment that I can give you is that you made my life infinitely better. I thank God that he brought you, Greg and the kids in my life and that you blessed us with such happiness and friendship. You have a huge heart, are one of the strongest people I know and will always hold a big place in my heart.”
“You are a true testament to every strong woman fighting through adversity of one kind or another. Being a single mother, raising children, fighting cancer - Aunt Stacey you've done it all.”
“I see you coming up my driveway, dropping off dinner for me after my surgery. Even while fighting your own battle, you deeply cared for others. I was so honored to have been loved by you and so honored to be able to care for you for just a few moments in time. You saved my life and taught me how to fight. I'm alive because of you. You are so loved!”
“She is a true example of what a child of God looks like for me. A true verse that comes to me when I think of Stacey!! Philemon 1:7 Your love has given me great joy and encouragement, because you, brother, have refreshed the hearts of the Lord's people.”
“Stacey was the loveliest woman I’ve known. Her stunning outward beauty was surpassed only by her genuine inner beauty. Her radiant smile lit up a room and her spirit energized it. Our lives were enriched by her love and her friendship.”
Stacey will be remembered by her family as a fierce fighter, loving mother and passionate friend. Her love of life and infectious smile could change the room. Her legacy of joy, love, determination and compassion will live on through her children who learned so well through her example. Our hearts are broken, but the strength and love that she exuded, and the courage that she displayed will get us through the coming days and years.
Stacey is survived by her daughter Olivia Garvis of Parker, CO, son, Shea Talbot and his wife Melody of Denver, CO and grandson Bosstyn; husband Greg Garvis of Parker, CO; mother, Sara Merle of Fort Collins, CO, father, Jim VanEck of Sacramento, CA. Survived by her siblings Shara Hubert and children Dominic and Leslie; Johnathan Merle, wife Rebekah and children Ashley, Hannah and Christian; and brother Jason VanEck, wife Christie and children Kiana, Kylie, Carter and Canton, and a loving extended family and many wonderful friends.
There will be a celebration of Stacey’s life scheduled at a later date. Condolences may be shared with her family at www.AdamsonCares.com or on her Facebook page.
Memorial contributions may be made in her memory to the Colorado Ovarian Cancer Alliance, The donation page for COCA can be found at: www.colo-ovariancancer.org
Friends and Family,
Would you mind taking a minute to sign this petition to get ovarian cancer license plates as an option in Colorado? Stacey started this petition two years ago because she wanted to bring more awareness to ovarian cancer and we know she would have loved to see it happen... so we're going to try to finish it for her! Thank you!
A few more comments from family and friends can be found below.
“Your smile, warm heart and wonderful laugh will be with us forever. We will always remember that your strength and spirit during this battle. We will continue telling all of our friends and family what a beautiful, strong, driven and loving woman you are.”
“She will be missed by many and we are all better for having known her. She embodies the light, joy, and kindness that we should all be so lucky to have in our lives.”
“I will miss our comparisons/commiserating about the silly things our husbands would do or say. You were kind, funny and thoughtful. But, I know your greatest love was your family. You were fiercely protective of each of them and would do anything in your power to help them or make them happy.”
“Because I knew you, I have been changed for good.”
“Your infectious laugh could turn any mood around. Your zest for life. Your love for your family. Your love for your friends. Your love for ME.”
“Your courage and strength is something I have never witnessed before. The grace you have and had throughout this whole process has been astonishing. You are a true warrior.”
“I love your smile, your laugh, your beauty and most of all your friendship. I’m a better person because you are my friend. Your laugh and smile is unlike anyone I’ve ever known. Your passion for your family, friends and life are so inspiring.”
“I've met and known so many people over my lifetime, but you will always stand out as the kindest, sweetest, thoughtful, most loyal and beautiful person inside and out. Your beautiful family reflects all the love and care you have given them as a mom, wife, sister, sister-in-law, daughter, aunt, and most recently mother-in-law and step-grandma.”
“Your courage and conviction that you would beat this storm has been awe inspiring to all. Your serenity and fearlessness has been a great example for all but most importantly Shea, Olivia and Bosstyn.”
“I really felt the love and respect in our friendship. I will always remember your sweet texts, loving hugs, kind heart, and your smile when you saw me. I really treasure our friendship, I adore you! I have lots and lots of sweet memories of you.”
“You have been such a huge inspiration to me with the strength and grace you have shown fighting this disease.”
“I think of the poem, “A friend for a reason, a season or a lifetime”, and I think of her. I loved her laugh, her smile, and her great sense of humor. She definitely taught me that life is so valuable, so short, and so powerful.”
“It's hard to put into words what a special person you were! I'm so thankful that you were in my life and I will truly cherish all of the memories we shared the past 12 years! You have always been a wonderful friend. Selfless and caring, you wanted to take care of others and you did.”
“She was the type of person that would touch you to your core with her wise words and gratitude. She once told me to always treat people with kindness because you don't know what they are going through.”
“She was such a light, and all of you carried yourselves with grace, courage and conviction through these difficult years. I think my favorite Stacey moment came during a PGA Junior League match a couple of years ago. We were on no. 3, and Olivia hit a majestic shot that soared over the ravine, against a perfect sky, and settled up just a few feet from the hole. Olivia beamed, but Stacey radiated joy – a kind that some people never even experience once. Her happiness at that instant made my life better, and I’m grateful for that.”
“You made sure I was always working hard to achieve my goals and caring about each little thing as if it were big. So sweet and selfless. You enveloped me with a rare type of genuine kindness. One of a kind in so many ways. A beautiful soul, a true angel even then.”
“We all will carry a piece of her with us forever. She showed us all what strength and courage really is. Brave right up to the end! We love you and will miss you always.”